It is heading towards the holidays and you are out gift shopping. You got something for your mother, sister, brother-in-law, and dog. You are pretty happy with yourself. But then you start to think about the big one. What are you going to get the love of your life. You hunt around different shops, different malls, and online but you just can’t quite find the right gift. What should you do?
While the answer to that question depends entirely on what point your relationship is at. You obviously will get different gifts and presents for somebody your brain you been seeing for a week, compared to somebody who have been married to for five years. But whether it is the weeklong relationship or the five-year marriage, putting a bit of effort and thought into the gift will always win you brownie points. Do not just go for the first thing you find, or the most expensive piece of jewelry you can afford, the think about what the person likes, loves, and enjoys to make your selection.
If you are in a new relationship it can be difficult to work out whether you should buy a gift at all. If you have only been on one date with a person then I would suggest not buying a present or even a card, but instead using the excuse of the holidays to set up another date.
Suggest going to some Christmas related event such as a fair, or party. This can essentially be your gift to the person as well as the second date for you both. You can then enjoy the Christmas spirit together without worrying about what kind of gift you should buy.
If you have been on a few dates so far, but the relationship is not yet serious, then use should still consider some small gift. It should be thoughtful, but not extravagant. If you decide to get an extravagant gift of this point then it can cause trouble for the future of the relationship. The other person may feel that they need to stay with you longer because of what you bought and how you think about the relationship, or it may scare them away if they are not entirely sure about where they want the relationship together. I suggest buying a small gift that mean something to them, perhaps something related to their interests or lifestyle that you have picked up on over your previous few dates.
if you have been seeing somebody for a few months then you are definitely into gift buying territory. But again, just as in a new relationship, you should try and keep away from presence and gifts that might be too extravagant.
They many people always fall back on the mainstays of gifts, such as flowers, chocolates, and jewelry, these should only be seen as side presents and your main gift to anyone you care about should be well thought out. ‘It’s the thought that counts’ really is true and people really like it when you put a lot of thought into presents. Notice what they talk about in the weeks coming up to Christmas and whether they have any new interests or new tastes in life, and then build your gift around these. By listening out and getting ideas from the person you make your job far easier, and enable yourself to get into a position where you can actually strengthen the relationship simply by paying attention and showing how much you care about the other person.
Having said that, the bouquet of flowers or a box of chocolates are always going to go down well, just as long as you have thought about the main gift.
If you are in a long-term relationship, or are married to somebody, then you should know them and their interests very well. The plus side of this is that you will definitely know what they like and will definitely be able to select a gift that is appropriate for them and that they will definitely enjoy. The downside is that you may well have already used up all of your ideas in previous holidays.
However, if you are in a long-term relationship it is perfectly legitimate to ask the other person what they might like for Christmas. They will have thought about what they want, and as you will be their main gift giver they will probably have a long list for you to look at!
Contrary to the advice for that new relationship or short-term relationship, extravagant presents, once in a while, are a very good idea in a long-term relationship. You should be happy to spend money on your partner and to get them something very nice. In fact, though it may be a cliché, a very nice, very expensive piece of jewelry goes down very well at this time of year.