A lot of guys end up picking the wrong girl. It’s a sad fact of life that a lot of people just need to be with someone, anyone to feel valuable, which means guys will often settle for the wrong girl, making everyone unhappy.
Finding the right person to date is an age old problem. Another problem is that often, people don’t know what they are looking for in a partner until they find it. This means lots of trial and error, drama and bad relationships.
Finding The Perfect Girl For You
First of all, be realistic. If your list of traits for the perfect girl is as long as your arm, you’ll never be happy. Humans are inherently flawed, but sometimes, these ‘flaws’ are in integral part of someone’s personality.
If you are looking for the hot, attractive and clever girl, you’d be best off making sure that you have something equally as valuable to offer them. Beauty And The Beast was a fairytale, remember?
One of the most important qualities you should be looking for is self reassurance. You don’t want to be dating someone who is forever seeking your attention and time. In the same way, you don’t want to act like you need the help of other people every minute of the day. A relationship should be a two way thing, both of you giving and receiving. When you are constantly having to nurse the neediness or another, you won’t be happy in the relationship.
Find yourself an emotionally resilient, happy girlfriend and both of your lives will be better.
Don’t Date Someone Stupid
Intelligence is just as important as any other trait. It’s no fun to be dating someone, especially long term if there’s nothing deeper than their face value. Yeah, you might find some super attractive chick excites and tantalises you physically… Yet, bores you to death the rest of the time. Who cares about what the Kardashians are getting up to. Do you really want to be with someone that makes you want to just escape and talk to someone interesting?
I’m not saying you should go and find the latest Nobel Prize winner, (They probably aren’t interested) just to find someone who is on the same level as you intellectually. Most couples do more talking to each other than anything else, so if you pick a girl who bores you or talks about stuff that you have no interest in, you are with the wrong girl.
Find Someone Active
A lot of people and couples spend a huge amount of their time inside, doing their own thing, with no involvement with each other’s activities. You don’t want this. Whist it is great to have your own space and time to do things that you enjoy alone, picking someone with similar interests to you is paramount to a successful relationship. If you like windsurfing, rock climbing and running, it might not be the greatest plan to find a girl who loves cross stitching and watching TV. Whilst your hobbies don’t have to overlap, having something to say about your partner’s activities and being able to talk about the things you love to them is important. when you find someone who is active and enjoys living and doing things, it can only mean that both of your lives will be more enjoyable. When your partner takes a valid interest in the things you do, you feel more validated and much happier.
Find Someone That Respects You
Respect is often talked about in other kinds of relationships, but very few romantic relationships in the real world revolve around it. Respect should be earned, yes, but finding someone who respects your opinions and can live with having differences in opinions with their partner is important. If you can’t respect each other’s opinions, there’s a very low chance of being able to respect each other’s decisions and fighting over every little thing isn’t a great way to start a relationship.
Find Someone That Makes You Feel Incredible
There’s a long list of men that wouldn’t have been successful without the aid of their spouses and girlfriends and it is easier to succeed in everything when you have the backing of another. This works both ways though, support your partner’s desires and in turn they will support yours. If they don’t make you feel stronger and better, maybe this person isn’t for you.
There’s a myriad of more personal things you might be looking for in a girlfriend but these points are not a bad place to start!